Pain

The pain from trauma is unbearable. 

False promises, lies and then disappearance. It hurts. I don't know how to stop this pain and make the hurt go away. Why does someone who is in no position to commit to a relationship enchant and make people fall in love? Why does a married person trifle with someone who has limerence and attachment issues? Feeling abandoned is the worst pain.

How does it work? How does someone go from loving you to completely erasing your memory altogether? A proposal this year only to marry someone else the next? How do they do this? What changes in 6 months? 

Most importantly, how could they disappear? Doesn't it hurt at all? Are they so logical that they are devoid of emotions? Do they consider other people to be so insignificant, mean less than nothing that they feel they can trample others hearts?  Does the time spent mean nothing? Do they get so much pleasure in hurting others? One day you are laughing and the next you never see the person ever again? How do they do this? What do they get out of it?

Is it a lot to ask for a bit of kindness, honesty, empathy? Why is it difficult for some to take the time to explain, set expectations, boundaries, to be there for the other person? Why are they so brutal?