Red flags to relationships

There are several red flags to relationships; some of them are listed below.

Already married or in a committed relationship: Yes, they are never going to leave their partner even if they say they are going to. It is a very rare occurance. Its a power/ego trip to the married person and destroys the self identity of the partner who is single.

Is not willing to meet or spend quality time together

Does not share phone number or socials 

No physical attraction

Does not see a future or talk about future plans

Is very romantic but insists we are only friends 

Deflects, dodges and does not answer questions or share their views

Not financially stable and refuses to talk about it

Restricted religious views

No open communication and trust

Past relationship trauma which makes them have trust issues, triggers and angry reactions to minor things

Avoidant attachment in relationships

Says racist or inappropriate things but insists they are impertinent

Refuses accountability

Refuses to apologize even when they acknowledge its their fault

Anxious attachment which triggers abandonment issues causing them to threaten self harm

Not willing to establish boundaries but will test by pushing boundaries 

Not supportive or listen when partner wants to vent. Insists its their problem and they dont want to hear about it.

Makes decision in silos and does not consult partners for decisions

Does not understand mental health issues and blames partner for being negative, sad all the time 

Does not know how to express their needs or is not willing to 

Silent treatment, withdrawal, ghosting, blocking and ignoring when there are concerns  that the partner wants to talk about. But will return after a cooling off period and will refuse to talk about the reason for their withdrawal

On-again, off-again relationships

Physical abuse, hitting, assault, violence, rape

Verbal abuse like criticism, belittling, name calling, humiliation, bullying, nagging, shouting

Neglect, gaslighting, plays blame game

Unstable emotions that makes you feel like you are walling on eggshells

No love or romance, no encouragement or motivation, praise

Does not understand love language or makes the effort

Unable to comfort the partner during physical or mental struggles 

Hopefully you realise the red flags and have a conversation with the partner and find a way to resolve them.